A stool under my legs.
Hate in my heart.
Pain in my mind.
Noose around my neck.
Shame in my eyes.
Guilt in my head.
I had made up my mind.
I ran out of options.
I ended myself.
Last year, this week, I lost one of my schoolmates, who fell victim to our educational system and discouraging society. He lived right in the next block. We travelled the same road to school every day, albeit talking much. And one evening, I received the news of his demise.
Had I seen it coming? Yes.
Did it shock me? Yes.
Does failing twice in 11th grade, and continual discouragement by the very people who you depend upon for moral support, regressed under the burdens of parental and societal expectations, drive you to the limit that you decide to take your own life?
Suicide is not limited to a distressed few. Any individual on Planet Earth may be vulnerable to suicide due to different reasons.
Depression and stress are two of the primary reasons.
When an individual chooses to commit suicide, he or she is choosing “flight” instead of “fight.”
Depression can affect anyone, be it the rich or the poor, being the leading causes of death worldwide. It can be prevented if help is sought out at the right moment.
However, because depression goes largely undetected, the chances of suicide increase.
Depression comes in waves.
Some days it feels as though you’re in a drought and some days you’re drowning, swallowing water until your thoughts are soaked and decaying from the salt.
And not much can help you.
Primarily in India, students may commit suicide when examinations draw nearer or when the results of these examinations are declared. Examination stress is not the sole reason for students opting to end their lives. The type of relationships they share with their family members and friends is equally crucial.
Examination stress is not the sole reason for students opting to end their lives. The type of relationships they share with their family members and friends is equally crucial.
The dreams of parents with regard to the careers of their children should not turn out to an obsession. Most people agree unanimously that success can be attained only later in life.
Examination results shouldn’t be the end of the road. However, today’s children fail to realize this truth, primarily because the culture we live in and the undue importance given to exams by teachers and parents.
At the start of each academic year, students of SSC, HSC, IIT JEE and AIPMT aspirants undergo severe tension and stress with regard to the marks they have scored.
All students have the highest expectations; however, can every student be a topper?
With high expectations, anxiety levels, too, increase to an all-time high. Some students are resilient enough to face the results, whereas others chicken out.
Experts have concluded that an astounding 75% of students who take the board exams like CBSE with other competitive exams suffer from depression.
In most of these cases, fear of failure is more distressing than the exams itself.
With the student population burgeoning and limited seats at colleges, there is cut-throat competition. This type of competition is unhealthy, and teachers and parents have a major role to play in downplaying competition. These factors give rise to intense circumstances, where students are more prone to take their own lives.
Counselors are of the opinion that Asian parents are most often the worst enemies of their children as they force their children to be narrow-minded. More often than not, parents lead to deteriorating situations for their children.
The time has come for parents to take a lighter approach to exams, and their expectations should be realistic when it comes to the potential of their children.
Not everyone has the same abilities and talents. Everyone must realize this before another instance of student suicide.
The primary type of suicide is student suicide. As can be seen, it is not a decision taken overnight but because of a steady buildup of stress, tension, anxiety, and depression.
Take notice of these warning signs before it is too late because every life is precious and should not be lost on things such as examination preparation or examination results.
They should simply not be under so much pressure. Frighteningly, there have been stories of children even younger than this committing suicide after doing badly in school tests. It seems parental and societal expectations are killing our children.
All this is not the fault of parents alone. They themselves are victims of a barbaric system which emphasises only marks and ignores the issue of any genuine learning or real thinking.
Indeed, the idea of children actually enjoying school is an alien one.
Indeed, such students, even if they do make it through the system, are frequently penalised by being given lower marks the moment they veer away from guidebooks or notes memorised page after page from mundane textbooks which drive home the need for conformity and in many cases also build the kind of bias that is so prevalent in our society.
We see unfolding before us a monumental tragedy.
It comes not only in the form of the post-matriculation suicides we see, but also in the fact that parents everywhere – some barely able to scrape together school or college fees – hope that high numbers, degrees and sound results will open up doors to a better future for their children.
Rest In Peace.