Each moment you’re not fully embracing, your life is wasted and your aliveness is denied.
There are two ways this happens most often:
You’re grasping for something that’s already passed:
Or, you’re waiting for something better in the future:
But grasping at the past is trying to preserve the wind.
Chasing the future is like trying to bottle a mirage.
Both kill the aliveness available to you in this moment.
The aliveness you feel in this moment is vaster, richer and more satisfying than the most deliciously intoxicating dream. But only if you open fully.
Why do we deny the only living thing?
The only living thing right now is the unfolding.
This moment is the unfolding of the story — the labor of your life. Hopefully it’s a labor of love.
Everything else is a ghost. Yes, you can aim to achieve or be something or somewhere greater.
But when you tensely wait to be alive until that something greater is reached, you perpetually cut yourself off from the only living thing — this moment.
Because once you reach that peak, you will inevitably see another, and another.
The waiting never ends.
If you’re not opening fully now, you might as well be asleep.
The Reason We Deny our Aliveness.
Why do we live continually waiting to come alive? Like all animals, we are driven to avoid pain and seek pleasure.
But as humans we have the unique ability of comparing and contrasting. By comparing ourselves to others we can see that something better is out there, or be afraid of something bad that might happen.
So we resist what’s happening now, in favor of preparation or defense. We’re waiting for a myth: The Myth of Perfection.
But life is not perfect.
Nothing is ever perfect in your mind.
The only thing perfect is this moment.
If you’re waiting to live fully because you think that one day you’ll shape the perfect circumstances, you’ll be waiting until you’re dead.
You will never be done.
“We have a right to our labor, but not to the fruits of our labor.” – Krishna.
The other big trap is waiting to be done. Our productivity-driven culture encourages this search for completion that never arrives.
Inbox Zero? Already slipping away.
A Completed To Do List? Rarely achieved, temporarily inspiring, and short lived.
A Clean House? Not for long.
Clinging to the state of done is a futile, life-killing pursuit.
You will never be done, so stop waiting to fully relax and open to this moment.
Relaxing = Opening to the truth and aliveness of what is. It is immediate.
Waiting = Tension and closure to the aliveness of what is. It never ends.
Stop fucking waiting, before it’s too late
“We are very good at preparing to live, but not very good at living. We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma, and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive. Every breath we take, every step we make, can be filled with peace, joy, and serenity. We need only to be awake, alive in the present moment.”—Thich Nhat Hanh.
Wherever you are, in whatever circumstances you are in, you can embrace them fully and open fully.
This does not mean that you’ll stop wanting to change anything. You will always want to change things and grow. Always. Until you’re dead.
Whether things are total fucking chaos or completely divine, you have one choice:
Fully embrace this moment and your aliveness, or choke it off with your closure.
The choice is yours.
Resisting never works.
If you’re going to be neurotic about one thing, be neurotic about embracing right now.
I mean, feel into this moment.
Yes. I said pause.
What a crazy concept in our hyper-productive, constantly-hurried, never-stop, consume-more-energy-drinks-rather-than-resting culture, right?
Pausing does not waste time.
Pausing opens you to the aliveness within your life, within your environment, within your heart.
When you pause and allow yourself to feel, you can open to what actually exists. You can move with it, you can transform it.
Do not wake up on your dying breath realizing that you spent your life waiting.
“If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back, then you suffer. Every moment is the most important moment of your life.” —David Deida.
Embracing everything is the path to liberation
Whatever you feel in this moment, feel it fully.
When you feel pain in your body, open to it without resistance.
When you feel pleasure, allow it without grasping.
Whatever you’re experiencing, feel it and say yes to it. That doesn’t mean that you tolerate things you don’t want, or become a victim.
The more you inhabit your body, the more embodied you become. The more embodied you become, the more you are open to the aliveness you experience as a fleshly being.
In your head, you learn. In your body, you live.